Are You Serious Right Now

galacticdad: when i was little i learned what schizophrenia was from TV and for a while i was...

Fri, 24 May 2013 01:17:09 -0400

when i was little i learned what schizophrenia was from TV and for a while i was really afraid because i thought i had it since i always heard my own voice in my head so finally i told a doctor and he informed me that what i was experiencing was called thinking.

hoodieallen: Best purchase of my life @justinbieber

Fri, 24 May 2013 00:53:07 -0400

hoodieallen:

Best purchase of my life @justinbieber

An Open Letter To Bikini Season

Sat, 11 May 2013 21:25:53 -0400

mmesurly:

How many bikini season posts have I seen on the internet so far this Spring? How many sopping guides; rules to determine which fruit I resemble the most? How many lists are there of swimsuits and sundresses that are “appropriate” for my body type? How much time have I spent in front of the mirror, scrutinizing the soft hills and jagged edges of my own body, pulling and tucking and arranging and wishing that something could be different or somewhere else? Am I an apple? A pear? An hourglass? A roast chicken?

I don’t love my body. I don’t hate it, either. It’s an instrument capable of both good and bad. It does things that I like and do not like. Sometimes it fails me. Most often, it performs the way I need it to and I am grateful. I made and fed two babies with it. It carries me through the woods, to my job, to the playground with my kids. It isn’t ornamental; it’s a machine. I am lucky.

Yesterday I read a blog post written by a stranger (a mother) about bikini season and the need to lose weight. She wrote unapologetically about how she just wants to be skinny. She wrote about swearing off food until she was skinny enough to be able to wear a bikini; she wrote that she plans on only consuming three protein shakes a day until she is as skinny as she wants to be: skinny enough to deserve that bikini.

As a human and a woman, I understand. It’s okay to want to be attractive (whatever your definition of that may be). If there is something that you don’t like about yourself, it is absolutely your choice to change if it you want to, however you want to. It isn’t my or anyone else’s business.

As a parent. AS A PARENT. I remember getting my daughter ready for school one winter morning. She was 4. She slipped her little arms into her puffy winter coat and suddenly started to cry. I asked her what was wrong and she turned her perfect, beautiful little face up to me and said, “This coat makes me look fat.” I cried right there at that very moment. My heart hurt so much for her. All of the frustration I have ever felt with my own body and appearance welled up in that moment. I knew exactly how she felt, and I was beyond horrified that she was feeling it. At 4 years old, my daughter was afraid people would think she was fat.

In that moment, I promised to never, ever, say negative things about mine, ours, or anyone else’s bodies. At home, in our shared family lives, we think we have private moments, but we really don’t. Our kids see everything. They see us skipping meals and eating tiny portions. They hear the things we say about our fat thighs and flat asses and too small/too big boobs. They think we’re beautiful because they love us, and when we turn around and shame ourselves, we teach them to do the same. We are their standard and they are our mirrors, and we will never be able to show them how to accept who they are while we are so busy hating ourselves.

I am trying to accept myself for them. I am trying to show my kids that there are so many ways to be healthy and beautiful. And as for bikini season, here is what I recommend for obtaining a bikini body: 1) Have a body, and 2) Put a bikini on it. It doesn’t matter what kind of fruit you’re shaped like. You get to do whatever the fuck you want. Isn’t that nice?

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Mon, 06 May 2013 16:39:20 -0400

Whenever I see a puppy

Mon, 29 Apr 2013 12:20:43 -0400

whatshouldwecallme:

ohyousillypotato: what i’m looking for in a man: will lend me his hoodies good sense of humor is a...

Thu, 25 Apr 2013 20:31:44 -0400

ohyousillypotato:

what i’m looking for in a man:

will lend me his hoodies

good sense of humor

is a cutie patootie

will slay my enemies in a brutal display of violence and paint his face with their blood

good taste in music

50 shades of done with this semester

Wed, 10 Apr 2013 00:44:13 -0400

50 shades of done with this semester

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Sun, 07 Apr 2013 23:59:18 -0400

toxicrants: Don’t say you’ll ‘treat a girl like a princess’ unless you’re prepared to follow up on...

Sun, 07 Apr 2013 23:52:34 -0400

toxicrants:

Don’t say you’ll ‘treat a girl like a princess’ unless you’re prepared to follow up on that shit.

If I’m not living in a castle by the sea with diplomatic powers over a small country then you’re a bitch-ass liar.

sluttyoliveoil: imagine if the screenshot was never taken and...

Fri, 05 Apr 2013 01:31:56 -0400

sluttyoliveoil:

imagine if the screenshot was never taken and the world would have to live without this image

ifyoucarryonthisway: i feel like mr. brightside is one of those songs you’re gonna hear on the...

Mon, 01 Apr 2013 00:07:25 -0400

ifyoucarryonthisway:

i feel like mr. brightside is one of those songs you’re gonna hear on the radio in the car 20 years from now after not hearing it in forever and your gonna just start sobbing bUT ITS JUST THE PRICE I PAY DESTINY IS CALLLLINGNG M E and your kids are gonna be like is she okay

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Wed, 27 Mar 2013 00:10:06 -0400

Gatsby. He had an extraordinary sense of hope. But I had the...

Wed, 20 Mar 2013 01:55:03 -0400

Gatsby. He had an extraordinary sense of hope. But I had the uneasy feeling that he was guarding secrets.

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92x: me seducing you

Thu, 14 Mar 2013 18:07:10 -0400

92x:

me seducing you

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